If you’re a square peg in a round hole, get out of the damn hole. Go find a square one. They’re out there. Part of learning who you are is learning the environment you need to be at your best… Some of us are lucky enough to, as the saying goes, bloom where we’re planted. Many of us are not. We often grow up with a sense of being defective, of something’s wrong with us, so we need to chop and trim ourselves and twist our selves inside out to fit our surrounding reality. This rarely turns out well. Better to search out the reality – or, if necessary, to bring it into being – that fits you.

I think what’s evolved is coming to see that drawing from my own experiences is enough. That that may be more powerful than what I could do if I gave myself five years to research the perfect answer. There’s a perfectionist part of me that feels like, Well don’t I have to master that subject, and don’t I have to read whatever everybody else said about that before I can talk about it? I think what has evolved is really getting the lesson that what is most powerful for people is story, truth and the nitty gritty of sharing our real experiences. That has showed up for me again and again.